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My greatest hardship by a wide margin. To do nothing

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  There is a lovely anecdote about the mechanics driving the relationship between a parent and his offsprings; at first, parents are main characters staring in all their child’s episodes. Followed by a second stage when parents are merely episodic characters, with no more a punch-line pe sequence. Ending with parents being sent to the back seats of the hall. Rumour has it these are painful transitions and parents adjust with great effort to them. To me, as my kid is facing more adversity and  challenges, the greatest hardship was for me to do nothing. Stand down when he had a fight at the playground (one he could handle and which was not assymetrical), while he had his little heart broken, while he tried to fit in or please, or while he failed. Instincts kicked in like a m@ther f@cker, and I could sense a roar surface. I also needed to remind myself that, as much as it hurt him and double the amount it hurt me, there are moments in a boy’s life where he should be left to face ...
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You’re not perfect. And you’re allowed to feel tired

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These days, I’ve been having more parenting talks with people whom are not parents. Raising some red flags, aren’t we? It really got me thinking and feeling a lot. It all started after I’ve been complaining it felt like too much sometimes – which it does. It got to the point where I was told to stop bitching, and acknowledge the privilege of being a parent, compared to other people struggling to be parents and not being able to. First off, I just want to highlight one thing – parents seem not to be allowed to express emotion, especially negative emotions. You’re not allowed to feel tired, overwhelmed, unappreciated, stretched, ran over, exhausted or angry. These are feelings a parent isn’t supposed to have towards his children, whom allegedly are God-given perfect gifts spreading joy and rainbows, right? Will just pause to have a hard laugh at it all. It is wrong on so many levels to judge a parent. They will cross themselves and their needs on a daily basis to serve and raise the...
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Single momz life

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Hi. I'm Adam's mom. This is my journey as a single mother of a toddler. It had its ups and downs, and this is a story about love, loss, fun, failures, sacrifice, and last but not least, work. I am proud of us and of what we have achieved together. And I think Anna and his son Adam make a good team.  The story goes on. It is also about childhood, his and mine, self care, lessons learned, good practices, what sometimes works and what never does, family life, dating, being single, mental health and all the things in between while raising a kid. No sugarcoating.  Below are some guidelines I try to follow in our day to day lives. There aren't rules or absolute truths, by far axiomatic. We evolve and our guidelines evolve with us.  #1 I love my kid to the moon and back. This is the first love story I've been a part of that feels real, unconditional and healthy. That being said, I don't want him always to be around and I stopped feeling guilty about that some time ago. #2 ...
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